Comments for The Mike Blog http://michael-wells.net Random rants, word spew, and typical things to be aware of. Sun, 05 Sep 2010 13:54:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Comment on Lesson Learned by Donna http://michael-wells.net/2010/08/24/lesson-learned/comment-page-1/#comment-105 Donna Sun, 05 Sep 2010 13:54:26 +0000 http://michael-wells.net/?p=45#comment-105 One day, my daughter dropped cookie crumbs on her kitchen floor. My sister blamed Micheal for dragging mud into the house. I told her it was Dixies mess. She insisted it was mud from Micheals shoes. She said he does it all the time. She also said Eugene never does it.That he always takes his muddy shoes off before coming inside. About 30 minutes later, I saw Micheal at the back door taking his shoes off before entering.Soon after, Eugene came walking in with mud on his shoes. Later, his father told him not to walk around in the house with muddy shoes. Eugene took his shoes off and threw them to the back door. The dry mud crumbled all over the floor. 5 minutes later, Micheal was being yelled at because his mother claimed she saw him do it, and claimed she saw Eugene take his shoes of outside and shake them off. Micheal has his faults as we all do, but they are normal faults. Nothing illegal or immoral. Eugene i always into something illegal. It may be wreckless driving, speeding tickets, possession,or fighting. Its ironic, but my son just graduated from the police academy. As a child, Eugene would slam toys on the floor in stores if his mother would not buy it for him. She would then buy the toy to keep him calm. Thats where he learned to act like a fool if things did not go his way. Marie has pretty much supported him. Last summer, ate age 23, Eugene came in and told his mother that he was ready for his allowance. Shawn, I work in a mental hospital and Eugene displays a lot of the behaviors patients have when they cant get what they want.I am not a doctor so i can not diagnose him. And from these patients constantly being readmitted,"Rapid returns" as we call them, I do not ever see Eugene changing his behavior. One day, my daughter dropped cookie crumbs on her kitchen floor. My sister blamed Micheal for dragging mud into the house. I told her it was Dixies mess. She insisted it was mud from Micheals shoes. She said he does it all the time. She also said Eugene never does it.That he always takes his muddy shoes off before coming inside. About 30 minutes later, I saw Micheal at the back door taking his shoes off before entering.Soon after, Eugene came walking in with mud on his shoes. Later, his father told him not to walk around in the house with muddy shoes. Eugene took his shoes off and threw them to the back door. The dry mud crumbled all over the floor. 5 minutes later, Micheal was being yelled at because his mother claimed she saw him do it, and claimed she saw Eugene take his shoes of outside and shake them off.
Micheal has his faults as we all do, but they are normal faults. Nothing illegal or immoral. Eugene i always into something illegal. It may be wreckless driving, speeding tickets, possession,or fighting. Its ironic, but my son just graduated from the police academy. As a child, Eugene would slam toys on the floor in stores if his mother would not buy it for him. She would then buy the toy to keep him calm. Thats where he learned to act like a fool if things did not go his way. Marie has pretty much supported him. Last summer, ate age 23, Eugene came in and told his mother that he was ready for his allowance.

Shawn, I work in a mental hospital and Eugene displays a lot of the behaviors patients have when they cant get what they want.I am not a doctor so i can not diagnose him. And from these patients constantly being readmitted,”Rapid returns” as we call them, I do not ever see Eugene changing his behavior.

]]> Comment on Lesson Learned by Michael L Wells http://michael-wells.net/2010/08/24/lesson-learned/comment-page-1/#comment-104 Michael L Wells Sun, 05 Sep 2010 06:22:20 +0000 http://michael-wells.net/?p=45#comment-104 I really feel like you guys are trying to say I grew up in the circus or something; seriously. But to answer your question Mr Johnson, yes I was blamed for a few things. When Eugene failed a class, he was "following in his brother's footsteps", when he wrote a bomb threat to his school, again, he was "following in his brother's footsteps". I also remember two accounts of where I was absent from Rose Hill (my home-town while living in Durham and Stuttgart Germany) I was blamed for hacking the phone company and charging a bill to "sex talk" 900 numbers. Now one of my aunts, Leah Friedman is the one that gave me a reality check on this; for a long time I believed I was somehow at fault every time but I remember her saying, "There is no way in hell someone can hack the phone company, when you're not even in the area of the carrier". Many other times I was blamed for hacking her bank account, stealing her ATM card and withdrawing money from her bank etc almost on a monthly basis it seemed. But the worst part was, is I actually was believing then that I had somehow been responsible for it. It really wasn't until my aunt Leah did some deprogramming on me (I guess you would call it that) and told me that there were "logical" explanations for it: Leah: "You were blamed for stealing the card?" Me: "Yes" Leah: "And you didn't even live with her?" Me: "No I lived across town at the time" Leah: "And Eugene suddenly got $500.00 richer while being unemployed?" Me: "Well, my mom probably gave that to him." Leah: "And then blamed you for stealing it?" Me: "Well... Umm... I guess he is the one who did it then huh?" It sounds silly yes, but I believed I had done something until, thanks to my aunt, showed me how logic always defeats fiction. When I left the US Army, my wife, my oldest daughter, and I lived with my parents for a while. She was a first-hand witness to some of this so she can most likely answer as well. I really feel like you guys are trying to say I grew up in the circus or something; seriously. But to answer your question Mr Johnson, yes I was blamed for a few things. When Eugene failed a class, he was “following in his brother’s footsteps”, when he wrote a bomb threat to his school, again, he was “following in his brother’s footsteps”. I also remember two accounts of where I was absent from Rose Hill (my home-town while living in Durham and Stuttgart Germany) I was blamed for hacking the phone company and charging a bill to “sex talk” 900 numbers. Now one of my aunts, Leah Friedman is the one that gave me a reality check on this; for a long time I believed I was somehow at fault every time but I remember her saying, “There is no way in hell someone can hack the phone company, when you’re not even in the area of the carrier”.

Many other times I was blamed for hacking her bank account, stealing her ATM card and withdrawing money from her bank etc almost on a monthly basis it seemed. But the worst part was, is I actually was believing then that I had somehow been responsible for it. It really wasn’t until my aunt Leah did some deprogramming on me (I guess you would call it that) and told me that there were “logical” explanations for it:
Leah: “You were blamed for stealing the card?”
Me: “Yes”
Leah: “And you didn’t even live with her?”
Me: “No I lived across town at the time”
Leah: “And Eugene suddenly got $500.00 richer while being unemployed?”
Me: “Well, my mom probably gave that to him.”
Leah: “And then blamed you for stealing it?”
Me: “Well… Umm… I guess he is the one who did it then huh?”

It sounds silly yes, but I believed I had done something until, thanks to my aunt, showed me how logic always defeats fiction.

When I left the US Army, my wife, my oldest daughter, and I lived with my parents for a while. She was a first-hand witness to some of this so she can most likely answer as well.

]]> Comment on Lesson Learned by Shawn Simmons http://michael-wells.net/2010/08/24/lesson-learned/comment-page-1/#comment-102 Shawn Simmons Sun, 05 Sep 2010 05:10:13 +0000 http://michael-wells.net/?p=45#comment-102 Oh my word. A nephew scams his own aunt and blames it on his brother? What is this world coming to? Well sadly as someone with a little background in physiology this is classic textbook examples of an older brother taking blame for a younger brother his/her entire lifetime [educated guess that "Eugene" is the youngest of the family]. Now, that they're all grown up, the youngest is still trying to point all blame to his creature comfort, "the escape goat". Sadly, it seems Michael is "the escape goat" in this situation. Had he not even had been there or only been there just for a visit, he would have still most likely been blamed in some fashion. The name calling and harsh language is classic of someone that knows they're in the disadvantage -- usually from already knowing they are in the wrong. If this had all truly been lies as Raven stated, there would have been no compulsive need to come here vomiting her slang all over the place. I truly hope you all sort out this conflict. It is truly disheartening to see this type of behavior in families -- scams, violence, and judicial misconduct. Oh my word. A nephew scams his own aunt and blames it on his brother? What is this world coming to?

Well sadly as someone with a little background in physiology this is classic textbook examples of an older brother taking blame for a younger brother his/her entire lifetime [educated guess that "Eugene" is the youngest of the family]. Now, that they’re all grown up, the youngest is still trying to point all blame to his creature comfort, “the escape goat”. Sadly, it seems Michael is “the escape goat” in this situation. Had he not even had been there or only been there just for a visit, he would have still most likely been blamed in some fashion.

The name calling and harsh language is classic of someone that knows they’re in the disadvantage — usually from already knowing they are in the wrong.

If this had all truly been lies as Raven stated, there would have been no compulsive need to come here vomiting her slang all over the place.

I truly hope you all sort out this conflict. It is truly disheartening to see this type of behavior in families — scams, violence, and judicial misconduct.

]]> Comment on Lesson Learned by S Johnson http://michael-wells.net/2010/08/24/lesson-learned/comment-page-1/#comment-103 S Johnson Sat, 04 Sep 2010 10:06:38 +0000 http://michael-wells.net/?p=45#comment-103 Hi Donna, Thank you so much for responding. I noticed you mentioned a lot about the mother but also mentioned "parents" but no other mention of the father. What happened there? Was he completely passive about this behavior? The reason I ask is because this seems to be an <strong>EXTREME</strong> case of behavioral projection. This is a condition and sickness in a parent that projects or blames all behavioral flaws on one individual child. I am also willing to wager that Michael has had some outrageous "things" blamed on him and as he aged and matured he most likely saw these incidences while reflecting back upon them as "silly". As an example: Eugene is faulted in an auto accident and Michael is blamed somehow under some strange and unusual connection. Fortunately, in binary house-holds where both mother and father raise the child, one usually keeps the other in "check" so-to-speak. This is why I ask. I do need some clarification though, is Eugene so dependent on his mother right now that she is fully supporting him? If so how long has this been going on [I saw somewhere someone said he was older than 23]? Hi Donna,

Thank you so much for responding. I noticed you mentioned a lot about the mother but also mentioned “parents” but no other mention of the father. What happened there? Was he completely passive about this behavior?

The reason I ask is because this seems to be an EXTREME case of behavioral projection. This is a condition and sickness in a parent that projects or blames all behavioral flaws on one individual child.

I am also willing to wager that Michael has had some outrageous “things” blamed on him and as he aged and matured he most likely saw these incidences while reflecting back upon them as “silly”. As an example: Eugene is faulted in an auto accident and Michael is blamed somehow under some strange and unusual connection.

Fortunately, in binary house-holds where both mother and father raise the child, one usually keeps the other in “check” so-to-speak. This is why I ask.

I do need some clarification though, is Eugene so dependent on his mother right now that she is fully supporting him? If so how long has this been going on [I saw somewhere someone said he was older than 23]?

]]> Comment on Lesson Learned by Joseph http://michael-wells.net/2010/08/24/lesson-learned/comment-page-1/#comment-101 Joseph Sat, 04 Sep 2010 06:02:28 +0000 http://michael-wells.net/?p=45#comment-101 BTW Mike, being I'm stationed at Ft Bragg now, just give me a word, I can "arrange" certain things being a Command Sergeant Major now! BTW Mike, being I’m stationed at Ft Bragg now, just give me a word, I can “arrange” certain things being a Command Sergeant Major now!

]]> Comment on Lesson Learned by Joseph http://michael-wells.net/2010/08/24/lesson-learned/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Joseph Sat, 04 Sep 2010 06:01:13 +0000 http://michael-wells.net/?p=45#comment-100 I smell a law suit and its pretty damn bad when family members are thinking of law suits and locking up peps in their own family. Too bad you can't just duke it out like in the ole' days. My money is on Mike being hes the one that went through Seirs training (as I too was in his cycle) Even with broken hips boss I bet you'd still be able to hip toss a 400lbs man with ease *snickers* I smell a law suit and its pretty damn bad when family members are thinking of law suits and locking up peps in their own family.

Too bad you can’t just duke it out like in the ole’ days. My money is on Mike being hes the one that went through Seirs training (as I too was in his cycle) Even with broken hips boss I bet you’d still be able to hip toss a 400lbs man with ease *snickers*

]]> Comment on Lesson Learned by Michael L Wells http://michael-wells.net/2010/08/24/lesson-learned/comment-page-1/#comment-99 Michael L Wells Sat, 04 Sep 2010 04:23:56 +0000 http://michael-wells.net/?p=45#comment-99 @Mr. Johnson: I'm not planning on any legal actions right at the moment; though that does depend entirely on my brothers attitude and his willingness to make a bad situation right. @Carl: Dude! Didn't think you'd actually show up! We'll get it figured out, but thankfully there are a lot of neutral parties that are here and hopefully giving my brother a reality check if anything. @Mr. Johnson:
I’m not planning on any legal actions right at the moment; though that does depend entirely on my brothers attitude and his willingness to make a bad situation right.

@Carl:
Dude! Didn’t think you’d actually show up! We’ll get it figured out, but thankfully there are a lot of neutral parties that are here and hopefully giving my brother a reality check if anything.

]]> Comment on Lesson Learned by Donna http://michael-wells.net/2010/08/24/lesson-learned/comment-page-1/#comment-98 Donna Sat, 04 Sep 2010 04:23:39 +0000 http://michael-wells.net/?p=45#comment-98 <blockquote>how can two brothers grow to be so different? Michael seems to be pretty successful in running his web design firm, and then there is a brother on probation with no job,</blockquote> His parents did it. Everything Eugene did wrong as a child was Micheal's fault in some way. Actually was always someone else fault. When he got in trouble at school, his mother claimed the teachers did not like him and they were picking on him. If he did something wrong at home, Micheal got the blame for it. Now that he is an adult, the police pick on him by telling lies about his reckless driving. Eugene never had to take responsibility for his actions. Micheal would be punished. According to his mother, Everyone was picking on poor little innocent Eugene. When his father left his mother, I told her she was lucky she only had herself to be responsible for. She reminded me she had Eugene. I reminded her that he was 23 years old and responsible for himself. She was then quit. But after a moment, she did agree. She has got him so bad that while we were on vacation in NY, he sent her a text message wanting her to wire him $5 dollars for a pack of cigarettes.

how can two brothers grow to be so different? Michael seems to be pretty successful in running his web design firm, and then there is a brother on probation with no job,

His parents did it. Everything Eugene did wrong as a child was Micheal’s fault in some way. Actually was always someone else fault. When he got in trouble at school, his mother claimed the teachers did not like him and they were picking on him. If he did something wrong at home, Micheal got the blame for it. Now that he is an adult, the police pick on him by telling lies about his reckless driving. Eugene never had to take responsibility for his actions. Micheal would be punished. According to his mother, Everyone was picking on poor little innocent Eugene. When his father left his mother, I told her she was lucky she only had herself to be responsible for. She reminded me she had Eugene. I reminded her that he was 23 years old and responsible for himself. She was then quit. But after a moment, she did agree. She has got him so bad that while we were on vacation in NY, he sent her a text message wanting her to wire him $5 dollars for a pack of cigarettes.

]]> Comment on Lesson Learned by cwheeler http://michael-wells.net/2010/08/24/lesson-learned/comment-page-1/#comment-97 cwheeler Sat, 04 Sep 2010 04:17:42 +0000 http://michael-wells.net/?p=45#comment-97 Hey Buddy thx 4 showing me this on facebook. I have known you and Eugene for a long time and I know Eugene knows better than this. It is very disheartening to seeing you 2 at it like this but I can see where you are coming from 2. I have to ask 2 what he was thinking, he knows tarpaper has to be laid at the bottom of the gable to the bottom of the opposite gable. He also knows that the osb for the roof like that cant have gaps bc it makes the roof weak 2. As for his junk on the floor its sloppy and makes me mad if it were my shed but I wud do it my self. No excuse for putting a hole in osb it is stronger than plywood and much stronger than particle board and much stronger than that new foam board stuff too. I don't understand either buddy. hope you 2 get this figured out! Hey Buddy thx 4 showing me this on facebook. I have known you and Eugene for a long time and I know Eugene knows better than this. It is very disheartening to seeing you 2 at it like this but I can see where you are coming from 2.

I have to ask 2 what he was thinking, he knows tarpaper has to be laid at the bottom of the gable to the bottom of the opposite gable. He also knows that the osb for the roof like that cant have gaps bc it makes the roof weak 2. As for his junk on the floor its sloppy and makes me mad if it were my shed but I wud do it my self. No excuse for putting a hole in osb it is stronger than plywood and much stronger than particle board and much stronger than that new foam board stuff too. I don’t understand either buddy.

hope you 2 get this figured out!

]]> Comment on Lesson Learned by S Johnson http://michael-wells.net/2010/08/24/lesson-learned/comment-page-1/#comment-96 S Johnson Sat, 04 Sep 2010 04:03:30 +0000 http://michael-wells.net/?p=45#comment-96 Mike, are you guys planning on any legal actions? Right now from the post I saw that you didn't display publicly, from what Raven said, and the actions your brother has taken, I would most defiantly say you guys are entitled to a little cash. Depending or not if what she said is true, if it is then it is still defamation of character (illegal criminally) and what is visible here, from your witnesses, you defiantly have a case for libel. Your brother, on the other hand is defiantly responsible for not just the labor he failed to provide, but the damages he incurred also needs to be remedied. Mike, in short between you and your aunt, you could easily get a judgment for at least $120,000.00 and that's being modest. But the question I have, maybe Donna can answer for me. From what I'm reading here I have to ask, how can two brothers grow to be so different? Michael seems to be pretty successful in running his web design firm, and then there is a brother on probation with no job, separated and committing adultery, and running scams on his family? How can this happen? Mike, are you guys planning on any legal actions? Right now from the post I saw that you didn’t display publicly, from what Raven said, and the actions your brother has taken, I would most defiantly say you guys are entitled to a little cash. Depending or not if what she said is true, if it is then it is still defamation of character (illegal criminally) and what is visible here, from your witnesses, you defiantly have a case for libel.

Your brother, on the other hand is defiantly responsible for not just the labor he failed to provide, but the damages he incurred also needs to be remedied.

Mike, in short between you and your aunt, you could easily get a judgment for at least $120,000.00 and that’s being modest.

But the question I have, maybe Donna can answer for me. From what I’m reading here I have to ask, how can two brothers grow to be so different? Michael seems to be pretty successful in running his web design firm, and then there is a brother on probation with no job, separated and committing adultery, and running scams on his family? How can this happen?

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